Fighting, controlling and resisting are common habits on this journey to health, well-being and weight loss. When things don’t go your way, plans change, communication goes awry, judgments ensue, and insecurities take over… our world can seem to fall apart. It’s at this moment that massive resistance creeps in and life feels hard.
In this video, you’ll learn the two types of resistance and how to feel your way into a better way.
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Hey friends, it’s Maya, behavioral registered dietitian, founder at Healthy Habit Solutions and I’m creating a new kind of video today, you’re coming on a walk with me in beautiful Phoenix, Arizona where it’s finally starting to cool down and not be 100 degrees in November. Message for you today, we’re talking on the one thing that’s going to make your life way easier than it is now, and that’s on resistance. There’s something that I want you to feel through as I talk about this and this is for chronic dieters, yo-yo dieters, stress binge and emotional eaters, people who already know what we should be doing with food and our health, and our happiness, and our peace of mind, but we’re not doing because we’re too busy or any other excuse that we may have.
Resistance is something that I want you to feel as we go through the process. There’s different kinds of resistance, essentially 2 different kinds of resistances, and that is behaviors, so clients and students come to me because they want to change a behavior and that behavior can look like I want to sleep more, I want to exercise more, I want to eat less sugar. Reducing resistance in a behavior can look and feel like, more so feel like … resistance by the way, is something that you feel with your heart, not that you can think through with your head, and resistance would be something like I want to drink less soda. I’m currently drinking 10 sodas a day and I’m going to start drinking 0 sodas tomorrow and do that for the rest of my life. Can you feel how resistant-ful that is? That’s absolutely not the right way to go.
When I teach how do you change a physical behavior, we teach stepping stone routines, and stepping stone routines are where you learn to reduce the resistance by taking the first step, the path of least resistance that you could do for the rest of life. By doing this you’re already automatically starting having to think differently. That’s a thought habit. By thinking differently you’re having to move out of extremeisms, you’re having to move out of all or nothing based thinking. When you find the path of least resistance in your food, or exercise, or physical behavior that you’re wanting to change, it feels better, it feels simpler, it feels easier, you always want to meet a stepping stone, the path of least resistance, you want to find that by simply asking the question can I do that for the rest of my life? If of course if the answer’s no, then we have a problem, then you’re taking the path of least resistance like you’ve already done, like you’ve always done up until this point.
When any time that you’re working to change a physical habit or behavior, finding the path of least resistance says what’s that next first step that I can take for the rest of my life? That could be if I’m not exercising at all, and I want to be exercising 5 days a week for 30-minutes each, you don’t want to make that big jump, that’s what you and I have done on diets before. When we start Monday, we change 998 things about our life and by Friday we fall into chocolate cake because we’ve used our willpower unstrategically. Reducing resistance in a physical habit or physical behavior when you’re working to create a new habit for yourself feels like allowing, feels like something that says, “Maya, I could do that for the rest of my life.” Of course our brain, not you, your brain, will say to you, “That’s not enough, you should be going harder, you should be going faster, you should be doing more,” so already you’re working through unwanted thought happens, unwanted thought habits of all or nothingness.
Resistance also comes up in our thoughts as well. When we’re talking about thought pattern-wise that says, in this work what you have to know is that our thoughts create our emotions, so you only feel what you’re feeling and emotional habits pop up in this work like depression, overwhelm, anxiety, frustration, and depression, all of those things, stress. We’re only feeling what we’re feeling because of what it is that we’re thinking, so if you’re thinking to yourself that I’ve done this a million times, I can’t change, change isn’t possible, those are producing unwanted emotions or feelings. Thought resistance pops up when we say, “Yes, you can change, it is doable based upon 65+ years of life where it hasn’t been successful, tomorrow will be successful.” A lot of people mistake that for positive thinking, but that’s just a massive amount of thought resistance. You can’t go from saying, “This is not possible,” to, “this is possible,” way too much resistance and not believable in the least bit. That’s thought resistance. When you can work to reduce your thought resistance you simply ask yourself, “How can I feel better about this? How can I see this differently?” In doing so, your brain looks for the what if, “What if I could, what if this was possible?”
By simply asking that what if questions, it’s a game that we play, a strategy we use in the online program and courses. Teaches you how to change your physical, mental, and emotional habits, and ultimately what to believe in deeper belief systems that are going to drive your every behavior, the behaviors that you do want in this work. When you do that for yourself then you can start to reduce the resistance and allow into your life that which makes you feel so much better. Reducing resistance is a crucial, crucial component to this work. Anytime you feel resistance it does not feel good. You can’t think your way through this one, you got to feel your way through this one. When you’re working to change a behavior, change an emotion, change a thought pattern that’s bringing you resistance that you don’t want you’re fighting. Control freaks, we do this. You’re meeting your life with much resistance, so when you can ask yourself the question of how can I reduce the resistance in this moment, in this behavior change, in this emotion, in this thought? That will produce a much happier life, a life full of peace and happiness and all that you truly are looking for. It’s going to make your habit and behavior changes that much easier when you go out looking for the path of least resistance that’s already going to start changing your thought patterns as well.
If you want to learn how to do all of these things, head to HealthyHabitSolutions.com. There’s 2 ways to get on board, you’re either going to be a personal client or you’re going to be an online student. Online courses will teach you how to change your … the entire curriculum teaches you how to changes your physical habits, your emotional habits, and your thought habits, and ultimately your deeper belief systems, the stuff that drives everything because the truth is, in this work, that we only do what we do and feel what we feel and think what we think because of what we believe to be true about our world. After 11 years of doing this, the truth is is that we don’t believe we’re enough, we’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, perfect enough, beautiful enough, not enough, ever. All of that belief systems, all those belief systems or repeated thoughts for yourself are going to drive unwanted thoughts and behaviors. When we can get to the root cause, then that will ultimately change on a long term basis what it is that you’re doing, how you’re doing it, and create an effortless, resistantless habit for yourself where you simply allow the life that you want and the body that you want because we’re only all in our own way on this one.
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