I’m not talking about physical weight, I’m referring to the emotional and mental weight, in the form of habits, the only true drivers of your unwanted physical behaviors that keep fat on your body.
Pay close attention, stop the video and take notes if you must. There is a lot of information I packed into this tiny video. Look for clues that will lead to your permanent health and weight loss by identifying the one point that resonates with you most.
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- The Brain & Soul Life Course: A foundational, deep dive life course in Maya’s curriculum of live courses where you will learn how to change your emotional and mental habits, the very factors that drive unwanted behavior, leading to cultivation of your own #enoughness and the best possible version of YOU. Get all the tools my clients and students use here, to eliminate worry, frustration, overwhelm and a sucky life, here.
You want to lose some weight in the next 5 minutes? Here are 3 ways. My name is Maya. I’m a behavioral registered dietetic for chronic dieters, yo-yo dieters, stress, binge and emotional eaters to help you become the very best possible version of you by cultivating what I call the enoughness factor.
You already know what to do. You already know that you should be eating an apple or a brussel sprout over a candy bar, but now it’s actually doing it. You’ve been on 998 diets. The thought of another one kind of makes you sick. The point is is that it’s not about the food. It was never about the food. It’s about learning to change the emotions that drive the behaviors and the thought systems that drive the emotions, ultimately, all driven by a deeper belief system … what I call not enoughness. The truth is, is that after doing this for 11 plus years and after coaching clients and students throughout their journey to becoming the best possible version of themselves, to cultivate happiness and peace of mind and losing a little weight along the way. There’s one thing that I know to be absolutely true. That is that your whole life, you’ve never been good enough for yourself. You’ve never been good enough. You’ve never been smart enough. You’ve never been pretty enough. You’ve never been beautiful enough. You’ve never been perfect enough. You just haven’t been enough.
When that belief system drives our thoughts, which drives our emotions, it drives our behaviors. It’s really not about the cookie. It’s about the stress and the thought patterns driving the stress. You ready? This is all leading into number 1.
Number 1, the first way to lose weight in the next 5 minutes is to be courageous in the face of your unwanted emotions. Be courageous in the face of your unwanted emotions. In this work … when I work with clients and students … that learn that emotions are habits. Emotions can be habits. Commonly in this work, people feel depressed and anxious, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, depression, anger … those are just common emotional habits. They’re less than desirable emotions that are on our journey. There’s one thing that you need to know for absolute sure is that emotions are just visitors on your journey. That’s all that they are.
You’ve got one of two options. This is what people do with emotions. We either sweep them under the rug … when we sweep them under the rug, we don’t want to feel them. We don’t want to see them. We want to hide them and we’re going to do that with the food and alcohol and drugs and sex and anything else that’s going to sweep those suckers under the rug so I don’t have to feel them. Or … this happens a lot in anger and depression … I’m going to become them. I call these fear storms. Getting lost in these fear storms, where I become the emotion so much so that I feel like I’ve fallen into a pit and I can’t find my way out.
When you’re an all-or-nothing-er, black and white thinking, pizza and cake, carrots and celery, 0% or 100%, you’re going to swing in one direction or another. That says I’m going to sweep the emotion under the rug, or I’m going to become the emotion. As clients and students learn on this journey that emotions are just visitors in the brain and soul life course … which I’ll put a link for you … there’s a whole module on how do I understand, learn, work through, and change my emotional habits. The point is, of course, is that we have to learn as there are visitors on our path, we have to learn from them. Then, we have to be able to release them.
Number 2, second way to lose weight in the next 5 minutes is to discover the thoughts that drive those unwanted emotions. Discover the thoughts that drive the unwanted emotions. In the work we do, the formula for permanence or belief systems … what we believe to be true about our world … the fact that you don’t believe you’re good enough … drives our thought systems that says I have to control everything. I have to be perfect at everything. I have to do everything 100% or not at all, which drives out emotions: stress, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, which is going to drive the cookie … which is going to drive all of the less-than-desirable actions and behaviors that are keeping you fat; that are keeping you in that hamster wheel cycle of all of the habits and behaviors that you don’t want. That’s what I mean when this stuff isn’t about the food.
It’s in that moment that when you can learn those common emotions that are on your path, you’re going to have to take that one step further and redirect your mind. What are the thoughts that are haunting you behind your stress or behind your anxiety? In that moment, you can redirect those thoughts. Thought redirection is something that my clients and students learn that says if I don’t think this way, I’m going to think this way. Best two questions to redirect your thoughts are how can I see this differently, or how can I feel better about this? You’ve got to know this. You are not your thoughts. You have 50-60,000 thoughts in a day. You are not any one of those. Those are just thoughts that are in your brain. You have the power to choose them.
The third way to lose weight in the next 5 minutes is by reducing your resistance. Reducing your resistance. The path of least resistance is one of the most important tools that I teach all of my clients and students. That is to find the way, physically or through an emotion or through a thought pattern. Find the thought that feels the best. Find the way or the behavior that you can take on with the least amount of resistance. Sometimes, we place so much resistance on ourselves that says I have to lose 20 pounds in the next 20 days. I have to lose 20 pounds in the next month to fit into this dress for this wedding or to go on this vacation on this cruise ship. By the simple act of placing a time restriction on the expectation, we attach ourselves to that and it becomes full of resistance.
I don’t know how I’m going to get there. I don’t know if I’m going to do that. If we remove the time restriction and find the path of least resistance that said, “Okay, I’m going to lose 20 pounds. I may not be in control of when, where, how, why that’s going to happen, but I’m going to start making some healthy changes. I’m going to stop eating after dinner time. I’m going to drink more water. I’m going to move my body a little bit better.” Remove our attachment to the expectation or the end result. That’ll help reduce some resistance.
There’s no wrong way to reduce your resistance in both your actions and your thoughts. That is so key in where it is that you are going. That one piece alone in your reducing resistance feels like a million pounds has just been lifted off of your shoulders.
I realize I didn’t talk about food at all, because we talk about food very little here in this journey, even though you’ve come here because you want to lose weight. Your first place, your next best place to get started is with the online life courses. The kick-start guide teaches you have to change your physical habits, and the brain and soul life course teaches you how to change your emotional and your mental habits. Those are the two core foundational online life courses that I offer, along with many other ones. I’ll put links for you below so you can go ahead and get started. I’d love to hear from you. What did you learn today? What was the most impactful point? Did you have an ah ha moment or any breakthrough or any experience that you’d like to share in your life? Feel free to share those in the comments below. Have a wonderful week.